First Impression

First ImpressionMy youngest daughter recently graduated college and is actively searching for that first career move into the workforce.

She is not settling for a job – she already has one of those.

Her sights are career based.

She is learning the importance of first impressions.  The first impression from a resume.  The first impression from a job interview.

As her father, I am like the cheering parent watching their child come up to bat.  It’s the bottom of the 9th and our team is down one, but bases are loaded.

I am excited for her.

I have 100% confidence in my daughter’s ability to knock one out of the park, but I’ve known her all my life.  I know what she is capable of.

Unfortunately, I am not the one who is making the hiring decision.

As someone who has interviewed applicants for more than 30 years, I realize my daughter has only minutes to make a first impression.

I offer some typical coaching advice such as, be punctual, smile, dress nicely, make eye contact, show interest by asking questions, and most importantly, relax – but I know she will do all these things already.

I even offered stories from my experience and how some candidates lost all credibility with me.

For example, the interview client who reeked so bad from cigarette smoke, I had to air out my office after he left.

Then there was the client who showed up 20 minutes late and expected me to adjust my schedule.

One of my most memorable was the client who perspired so profusely from nervousness, I felt compelled to end the interview early in fear he was having a panic attack.

Of course, I also mentioned the MANY interviewees who simply failed to smile and make eye contact with me during the interview.  I still wonder how many interviews it took before someone hired those folks.

Here is the cool thing about being the dad – I know my daughter well enough she would not make these same mistakes.

And here is the cool thing about being a hiring manager – I know by not making those mistakes, my daughter will already be positioned in the upper echelon of potential candidates.

Her resume opened the door – job functionalities have been established.  (Thank you Tonya Pomerantz  Puddle Jump Coaching for your expertise with this area.)

I know from experience, personality and fit will now be what secures the position.

So as she leaves for that first interview, I offer the best advise I can:

Head up. Shoulders back. Keep your eye on the ball.

Be confident in your abilities!

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